I felt compelled to write this although I’m not sure who needs to read this. Anyway, this is for that someone who is in a hurry to grow up. I have two words to say, “slow down”.
I think it’s important to enjoy the present moment. Don’t be in a rush to grow up. Perhaps in your mind, you think that growing up means your parents will not nag anymore or even right now you think you know more than the older members of your family and you’d rather have things done your way.
Growing up means taking on more responsibilities and growing older is part of the package. When you get older, your parents also get older and as we all know, our physical bodies have expiry dates. Trust me you will feel the void when they’re no longer around. So, spend time to appreciate them and if they nag, be patient and let them. You will miss their voice.
Another part of getting older or growing up is your parents may not be giving you allowance anymore if you have you’re already employed. You pay your own phone/internet bills, housing loan, life insurance, medical insurance, utilities bill, car loan etc… It also involves making important decisions such as buying a real estate, financing the real estate, spending money renovating the property and possibly spending more money if something is done wrong. That’s a lot of money isn’t it? Does it make sitting for O’level exam sound more inviting?
Sometimes I think it’s better to just rent a house instead of buying a house. The only thing is by renting, the owner may terminate the contract anytime they want the house back. Buying a house is like being tied down by a heavy rock (the housing loan).
If I could go back in time, I would be more patient when my father kept asking for me especially when he was bedridden. I would spend less time doing work at home and spend more time talking to him. Maybe we could’ve slowed down his dementia.