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I’m not sure how I fell into the rabbit hole. It started out with me catching up with my friend in the States. When she told me about this figure skater, i had to do a Google search on him. What can I say? I was more familiar with competitors in Swimming. I had not really looked at figure skating because I wasn’t able to appreciate it.

Then the more I saw the videos of him skating, the more impressed I am of him. Not only that, I became more interested in figure skating. In all my years of life, I’ve not bothered with the various terms eg. axels, triple toe, salchow, spread eagle etc…

It was this program that captured my heart and I became a fanyu – that’s what his fans are called. Chopin’s Ballade No. 1 happens to be one of my favourite pieces and seeing him skate so wonderfully to that music just takes my breath away. Before long, I fell in the deep rabbit hole and there was no getting out of it. No words to describe, other than perhaps he became one with the music when he skated. Of course, I didn’t realize that he was going to retire from competitive skating.

I’m glad he’s turning pro though. I decided, at least once in my life, I must see him perform.


I fell in love with this piece of music. Joe Hisaishi is an absolute genius in his crafts. It’s very difficult to pick a favourite but today this piece touches my heart as I thought about two friends of mine. One passed away last night and the other, grieving the loss. The most difficult kind of loss is the one that came without expectation. I mean, yes, we all have an expiry date but when someone goes away without any hint. When my dad passed away, we knew it was coming because of his health deteriorating. It was what they call anticipatory grief. My heart is heavy today. But I know my friend is at a better place now.

Are We Being Really Honest?

Have you had to sign up for one of those courses organized by companies? You know – those long courses which is broken down to a few days – one hour a day. In the course, there’s a section with interactions whereby people like myself would rather not post my thoughts on the site where it’s like Facebook but it’s not.

I find it strange that people who signed up for that course are expected to be honest and share our feedback. There is a high possibility that management will read your feedback. So, what if your honest feedback isn’t the model answer?

There are many possible answers. Some of them (not all) are: 1. I’m here because I have to support my family. 2. I’m here because I need a stepping stone to go elsewhere. 3. I’m here because I need the money to start a business 4. I’m here because I believe in the company’s vision. I guess answer no. 4 would be the model answer. So, do we lose marks when we reveal the truth? ie. For many people, they’re working in job that they can do, which enables them to put food on the table. That’s not to say that there isn’t anyone who is blessed enough to be holding a post and doing a job that they love.

I don’t think the course is beneficial. Out of fear, some might check responses filled up by others and just say something close to it – though it may not be the truth. So in the end, the survey responses are not accurate. So, what’s the point of getting everyone to take the course? It’s called a survey but you don’t get to answer anonymously. (Gasp!)

What say you?

Why am I working? To make the money, pay the bills, pursue my dreams, while planning for retirement.

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The Thing About Promotions

It is God alone who judges;
    he decides who will rise and who will fall. - Psalm 75:7 (NLT)

Being honest, who wouldn’t like more money. With the rising costs in almost everything, getting more money will help with the finances but at what cost? Ambitious people who have the intention to climb the corporate ladder might perceive people like yours truly as someone who has no aspirations. This is entirely false. Some of us just do not want to climb that ladder or run that rat race. The sad part is more money comes after you get a higher post.

I am not perfect in all I do, and I still make mistakes. Who doesn’t? I try my best at my work, but if all I’m rewarded is more work then I wonder,… is it worth it? Somehow it feels like being told, “Yes, I know you’re working hard. So I want to promote you so that you can make more money and I can give you more work.” With the additional workload and the stress comes the migraine and decline in health.

So, no I’m not striving for a higher post at the workplace. I do not want to manage people, nor do I need to have fancy title. I do not want to be remembered just as a person who contributed in any company’s revenue. I would rather touch lives. I do not work hard for a promotion. If the Lord chooses for me to get one, then I will have to carry that burden, but if He doesn’t, I’m fine with it knowing that He will provide for me anyway.


Remember the old song by F.R David. – “Words”?

Honestly, I think it’s better for words not to come easily to people because some people allow words to come out from their mouth without being filtered first.

Someone threw sarcastic jabs at me quite recently. Though I felt offended, I kept quiet and din’t respond to his sarcasm. I didn’t see any reason to. Not that it hasn’t happened before. Same person, but a few months back. I didn’t think much of it because when I got to know him many years ago, he just wasn’t like that. Something must’ve happened to him along the years that made him who he is today.

Am I still hurt? Yes. I won’t retaliate but I would want to avoid him knowing that he’s prone to throw sarcastic jabs.

This is a reminder of how strong words can be. The dangerous part is that you can’t see it when your words hurt another person. It’s not like external physical injury where you can see the bleeding outside. So, if you can’t see it, you won’t know. Therefore, just be kind. You don’t know what the other person is going through at that point of time. If you don’t have anything nice to say, best to keep quiet.

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14 Bless those who persecute you. Don’t curse them; pray that God will bless them. 15 Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep. 16 Live in harmony with each other. Don’t be too proud to enjoy the company of ordinary people. And don’t think you know it all!

Romans 12:14-16 (NLT)

The Eve before the Four Nine

The past four decades+ has been quite a roller coster ride. I’m thankful that God has been with me all the while and still leading the way. My prayer is that God’s will for my life will become clearer as I continue walking the path He has for me.

being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ;

Philippians 1:6 (NKJV)

The Hot New Year & The Sofuto

Happy Chinese New Year! Gong Xi Fa Cai.

What I remember most about this year’s first day of the Tiger year is fighting hard to prevent the sofuto from dripping on my car seat. Always have tissues and wet wipes in the car because you just never know when you may need it. And of course, the plastic sheet which works as a temporary apron so that food doesn’t drip on your pants or dress. If you’re buying icecream (and wearing a mask), get a parking lot that’s closer to the shop

If you do not eat/drink in your car, you may just skip this.

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Happy New Year

I grew up listening to Abba. Naturally I still remember many of their songs. Since it’s the 1st day of the new year, what better song to post than ‘Happy New Year’.

What is my wish? That Covid goes away permanently. Wearing masks outdoors will be a thing of the past. Scanning at entrances and measuring temperature will also be a thing of the past. Not forgetting being quarantined after holidays. And an end to the booster jab. I mean,…if the virus keeps mutating- heaven forbid that we end up taking endless boosters.

Uniquely You

I have a new sense of admiration to interior designers. Yes, those hardworking individuals that come up with proposals to try and match your liking and requirements. They revise it when you have changes and they coordinate with the contractors who come in to paint, fix lighting etc…

Just yesterday I had to run a one man show dealing with curtain contractors and another contractor servicing the kitchen sliding door. One was late and one was on time but neither one heeded the instructions to meet at the main guardhouse. Both came at different lobbies and one wasn’t sure which lobby he was in. Yesterday afternoon was enough cardio activity for me running around the block.

I can say I slept very well last night. Hats off to the interior designers. Some people say that the job of an interior designer is easy peasy but I admire them for being so detailed and measuring things correctly.

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